Ethical Slut

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Ten Speed Press, Apr 20, 2011 - Self-Help - 296 pages
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The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable.

For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle--from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.

"I couldn't stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives . . . a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends." --Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One

  

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Not the greatest writing, but great content. - Goodreads
The writing is kind of clunky. - Goodreads
A good introduction to polyamory. - Goodreads
... practical tips on polyamory and ethical slutiness. - Goodreads
It's a good introduction to these concepts, though. - Goodreads
I love the author's style of writing. - Goodreads

Review: The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

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Excellent! It's about the ethics around variations on polyamoury, but it has lots for everyone Read full review

Review: The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

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On me: I've been in my first open relationship for about two years, after a life of serial monogamy. So far, it's the best relationship I've had by a long shot: happier, closer, more secure, and ... Read full review

Contents

M_vths and Realities
9
Infinite Possibilities
46
+lwundance _
63
Boundaries
71
The Unethical Slut A Rant
78
PART THREE NAVIGATING CHALLENGES
108
PART FOUR SLUTS IN LOVE
182
CONCLUSION A SLUT UTOPIA
268
Copyright

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About the author (2011)

JANET W. HARDY is the author of more than 10 books and founder of Greenery Press, a San Francisco Bay Area book publisher specializing in sexually adventurous books. She swore off monogamy in 1987.

THE AUTHOR SCOOP

Do you eat your vegetables?
Yes, but I’d rather steal your dessert.

Have any good pet stories?
My dear Amy – a gigantic shaggy lab/poodle mix who went to doggie heaven last summer – is still the stuff of legend in San Francisco’s alt-sex scene. One evening, she wandered into the room during a bondage demo: a sweetie of ours was modeling a spreadeagle pose. Amy took one look at her beloved auntie and immediately flopped down next to her on her back, all four legs spread out in the identical pose, as the room dissolved in hysterics and Auntie sat up, rubbing her wrists indignantly, and sputtered, “Upstaged by a fucking dog!”

Are you "six degrees of separation" away from anyone famous?
Distantly related to Clement C. Moore, author of The Night Before Christmas.

Do you have a scar anywhere on your body? How did you get it?
A stylized elephant branded on my right calf, put there by Fakir Musafar. Elephants are large, smart and matriarchal – hence, my totem.

What was your favorite birthday?
Ah, this is a good one… my 35th, the year my two main squeezes at the time took a cabin at Sea Ranch for my birthday and we spent the weekend mushroom-hunting, binge-eating and fucking.

Name a favorite dish that your mother used to make.
“Israeli salad,” which she learned to make when she was trapshooting on the American team in the Maccabiah Games, the Jewish olympics. A chopped salad made with tomatoes, cukes, hard-boiled eggs, bell peppers, etc., and tossed with olive oil and lemon juice.

What is your favorite thing about being an author?
Spelunking in my own brain.




DOSSIE EASTON is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in alternative sexualities and open relationships. She is the author of four other books. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and has been an ethical slut since 1969.


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