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ordered with the Violence of this Paffion, they are not the proper Growth of our Country, but are many Degrees nearer the Sun in their Conftitutions than in their Climate.

AFTER this frightful Account of Jealoufy, and the Perfons who are moft fubject to it, it will be but fair to fhew by what means the Paffion may be beft allay'd, and thofe who are poffeffed with it fet at Eafe. Other Faults indeed are not under the Wife's Jurifdiction, and should, if poffible, escape her Obfervation; but Jealoufy calls upon her particularly for its Cure, and deferves all her Art and Application in the Attempt: Befides, fhe has this for her Encouragement, that her Endeavours will be always pleafing, and that she will still find the Affection of her Hufband rifing towards her in proportion as his Doubts and Sufpicions vanifh; for, as we have feen all along, there is fo great a Mixture of Love in Jealoufy as is well worth the feparating. But this fhall be the Subject of another Paper.

N° 171 Saturday, September 15.

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Credula res amor eft

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Ovid. Met. 7. v.

826.

The Man, who loves, is eafy of Belief.

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AVING in my Yefterday's Paper difcovered the Nature of Jealoufy, and pointed out the Perfons who are most fubject to it, I muft here apply my. felf to my fair Correfpondents, who defire to live well with a Jealous Hufband, and to eafe his Mind of its unjuft Sufpicions.

THE first Rule I fhall propofe to be observed is, that you never feem to diflike in another what the Jealous Man is himself guilty of, or to admire any thing in which he himself does not excel. A jealous Man is very quick in his Applications, he knows how to find a double Edge in an Invective, and to draw a Satire on himself out of a Panegyrick on another. He does not trouble himself to

confider

confider the Perfon, but to direct the Character; and is fecretly pleafed or confounded as he finds more or less of himself in it. The Commendation of any thing in another ftirs up his Jealoufy, as it fhews you have a Value for others befides himself; but the Commendation of that, which he himself wants, inflames him more, as it fhews that in fome Refpects you prefer others before him. Jealoufy is admirably described in this View by Horace in his Ode to Lydia.

Quum tu, Lydia, Telephi

Cervicem rofeam, & cerea Telephi

Laudas brachia, væ meum

Fervens difficili bile tumet jecur:
Tunc nec mens mihi,

пес color

Certa fede manet; humor & in genas
Furtim labitur, arguens

Quàm lentis penitùs macerer ignibus.

When Telephus his youthful Charms,
His rofy Neck and winding Arms,
With endless Rapture you recite,
And in the pleafing Name delight;
My Heart, inflam'd by. jealous Heat
With numberlefs Refentments beats;
From my pale Cheek the Colour flies,
And all the Man within me dies:
By Turns my hidden Grief appears
In rifing Sighs and falling Tears,
That fhew too well the warm Defires,
The filent, flow, confuming Fires,
Which on my inmoft Vitals prey,
And melt my very Soul away.

Od. 13. 1. 1.

THE Jealous Man is not indeed angry if you dislike another: but if you find thofe Faults which are to be found in his own Character, you difcover not only your Diflike of another, but of himself. In short, he is fo defirous of ingroffing all your Love, that he is grieved at the want of any Charm, which he believes has Power to raise it; and if he finds by your Cenfures on others, that he is not fo agreeable in your Opinion as he might be, he naturally concludes you could love him better if he had

other

other Qualifications, and that by Confequence your Affection does not rise so high as he thinks it ought. If therefore his Temper be grave or fullen, you must not be too much pleased with a Jeft, or tranfported with any thing that is gay and diverting. If his Beauty be none of the beft, you must be a profeffed Admirer of Prudence, or any other Quality he is Master of, or at least vain enough to think he is.

IN the next place, you must be fure to be free and open in your Converfation with him, and to let in Light upon your Actions, to unravel all your Designs, and difcover every Secret however trifling or indifferent. A jealous Husband has a particular Averfion to Winks and Whispers, and if he does not fee to the bottom of every thing, will be fure to go beyond it in his Fears and Sufpicions. He will always expect to be your chief Confident, and where he finds himself kept out of a Secret, will believe there is more in it than there fhould be. And here it is of great Concern, that you preferve the Character of your Sincerity uniform and of a piece: for if he once finds a falfe Glofs put upon any fingle Action, he quickly fufpects all the reft; his working Imagination immediately takes a falfe Hint, and runs off with it into several remote Confequences, till he has proved very ingenious in working out his own Mifery.

IF both thefe Methods fail, the best way will be to let him fee you are much caft down and afflicted for the ill Opinion he entertains of you, and the Disquietudes he himfelf fuffers for your Sake. There are many who take a kind of barbarous Pleasure in the Jealousy of those who love them, that infult over an aking Heart, and triumph in their Charms which are able to excite fo much Uneafinefs.

Ardeat ipfa licet, tormentis gaudet amantis.

Juv. Sat. 6. v. 208.
Tho' equal Pains her Peace of Mind deftroy,
A Lover's Torments give her fpiteful Joy.

But thefe often carry the Humour fo far, till their affected
Coldness and Indifference quite kills all the Fondness of a
Lover, and are then fure to meet in their Turn with all

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the Contempt and Scorn that is due to fo infolent a Behaviour. On the contrary, it is very probable a melancholy, dejected, Carriage, the ufual Effects of injured Innocence, may foften the jealous Husband into Pity, make him fenfible of the Wrong he does you, and work out of his Mind all thofe Fears and Sufpicions that make you both unhappy. At least it will have this good Effect, that he will keep his Jealousy to himself, and repine in private, either because he is fenfible it is a Weakness, and will therefore hide it from your Knowledge, or because he will be apt to fear fome ill Effect it may produce, in cooling your Love towards him, or diverting it to another.

THERE is ftill another Secret that can never fail, if you can once get it believ'd, and which is often practis'd by Women of greater Cunning than Virtue: This is to change Sides for a while with the jealous Man, and to turn his own Paffion upon himself; to take fome Occasion of growing jealous of him, and to follow the Example he himself hath fet you. This counterfeited Jealoufy will bring him a great deal of Pleasure, if he thinks it real; for he knows experimentally how much Love goes along with this Paffion, and will befides feel fomething like the Satisfaction of a Revenge, in feeing you undergo all his own Tortures. But this, indeed, is an Artifice fo difficult, and at the fame time fo difingenuous, that it ought never to be put in practice, but by fuch as have Skill enough to cover the Deceit, and Innocence to render it excufable.

I fhall conclude this Effay with the Story of Herod and Mariamne, as I have collected it out of Jofephus; which may serve almoft as an Example to whatever can be faid on this Subject..

MARIAMNE had all the Charms that Beauty, Birth, Wit and Youth could give a Woman, and Herod all the Love that fuch Charms are able to raise in a warm and amorous Difpofition. In the midst of this his Fondness for Mariamne, he put her Brother to Death, as he did her. Father not many Years after. The Barbarity of the Action was reprefented to Mark Antony, who immediately fummoned Herod into Egypt, to answer for the Crime that was there laid to his Charge. Herod attributed the Summons to Antony's Defire of Mariamne, whom therefore, before his Departure, he gave into the Custody of his

Uncle

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Uncle Jofeph, with private Orders to put her to Death, if any fuch Violence was offered to himself. This Joseph was much delighted with Mariamne's Converfation, and endeavoured, with all his Art and Rhetorick, to set out the Excefs of Herod's Paffion for her; but when he still found her cold and incredulous, he inconfiderately told her, as a certain Inftance of her Lord's Affection, the private Orders he had left behind him, which plainly fhewed, according to Jofeph's Interpretation, that he could neither live nor die without her. This barbarous Inftance of a wild unreasonable Paffion quite put out, for a Time, thofe little Remains of Affection fhe ftill had for her Lord: Thoughts were fo wholly taken up with the Cruelty of his Orders, that she could not confider the Kindness that produced them, and therefore reprefented him in her Imagination, rather under the frightful Idea of a Murderer than a Lover. Herod was at length acquitted and difmiffed by Mark Antony, when his Soul was all in Flames for his Mariamne; but before their Meeting, he was not a little alarm'd at the Report he had heard of his Uncle's Converfation and Familiarity with her in his Abfence. This there. fore was the firft Difcourfe he entertained her with, in which the found it no eafy matter to quiet his Sufpicions. But at last he appeared fo well fatisfied of her Innocence, that from Reproaches and Wranglings he fell to Tears and Embraces. Both of them wept very tenderly at their Reconciliation, and Herod poured out his whole Soul to her in the warmeft Proteftations of Love and Conftancy; when amidst all his Sighs and Languifhings the asked him, whether the private Orders he left with his Uncle Jofeph were an Instance of fuch an inflamed Affection. The jealous King was immediately roufed at fo unexpected a Question, and concluded his Uncle must have been too familiar with her, before he would have discovered fuch a Secret. In fhort, he put his Uncle to Death, and very difficultly prevailed upon himfelf to fpare Mariamne.

AFTER this he was forced on a fecond Journey into Egypt, when he committed his Lady to the Care of Sobemus, with the fame private Orders he had before given his Uncle, if any Mischief befel himself. In the mean while Mariamne fo won upon Sokemus by her Prefents and obliging Converfation, that fhe drew all the Secret from

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